Why Do Some People Succeed While Others Crash?

Why Do Some People Succeed While Others Crash?

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Achieving success basically boils down to 3 simple steps.

  • Decide what you want
  • Think about how to make that happen
  • Take your action.

So the first step is to find out what you want in YOUR life. That is the most important goal for everyone in life – to just “be yourself”. Not an unhappy, unfulfilled you, but a happy, fulfilled, successful you. However, for many people it is not that easy.

Often, we face obstacles and challenges. But why is it that some people just seem to easily breakthrough those obstacles, and others just seem to crash and burn? It all comes down to how our minds work. Management guru Stephen Covey says that all things are created twice: first, in the mind then the second physical creation.

You Become What You Think

If you think of the famous people in the world – movie stars, singers, sportspeople, politicians – most of the time, life didn’t just hand them their success. They had to work at creating it. And they all had one thing in common: a positive mental attitude.

Have you ever thought about:

  • How many games of golf Tiger Woods had to play to become the world’s best?
  • How many movies actors appear had to appear in, before they become famous?
  • How many songs musicians had to play before they made a hit song?
  • How many times Harry Potter got rejected before it got published?

We might never know, but I can guarantee they had to go through a lot before becoming successful. And I’m 100% certain they had a positive mental attitude which drove their determination to keep working towards their dreams.

As you realize by now, your attitude will determine your future. Experts estimate that there are 60,000 – 80,000 thoughts running through your mind every day, there are lots of opportunities for some of those thoughts to spiral into the negative zone. So stopping the negativity in its tracks and refocusing on the positive is important.

While keeping your thoughts in good shape sounds simple, but it is not so easy to do. We all know that developing and maintaining a positive mental attitude takes lots of determination.

It is so easy to ‘tune in’ to all the negativity and ‘doom and gloom’ thinking that is being discussed daily. With the downturn in the economy, people losing jobs and money, politicians squabbling and selling their policies, sometimes it is a tricky thing to try and reposition your thinking to what is helpful to you rather than destructive.

But there is an even more fundamental principle involved that not many people are aware of – your thoughts are not necessarily ‘who you are’!

Then Who Are “You”, Really?

If you think about it, logically:

  • Your thoughts are just your thoughts!
  • Your feelings are just your feelings!
  • Your actions are just your actions!

They are all separate components of yourself. Combined, they make up who you are! The quality of your thoughts, feelings and actions will show up in the level of success in your life.

Here is an example:

What if:

You hate your job. You just do it because your parents told you it would be a good career choice for you. In this situation, your feelings, thoughts and actions are not aligned and you will probably be miserable.


You love teaching. You are passionate about making a difference in students’ lives and that motivates you to become a teacher. Your passion (feelings), your thoughts and your actions are aligned…and you will be happy and fulfilled.

So the key to being successful is to bring all three components that make up who ‘you’ are – your thoughts, your feelings and your actions – into alignment. Some of the most successful people in the world understand this secret and are able to harness it for amazing success.

Choose Your Thoughts Wisely

Research on the internet shows that some of the top searches are topics like: happiness, love, success and attitude. But these are not things you can possess. You can’t drive in it like a car. You can’t hold it like a mobile phone. In fact, these four words – happiness, love, success and attitude – are feelings or thoughts. They are intangible. Sure, they can be seen when people are smiling, hugging, holding up an Olympic gold medal, or having a fancy house or lots of money in the bank. But those are the outcomes, and what got them those outcomes is a positive mental attitude.

You can only think one thought at a time so it’s important for your success that you to be make a choice and make it a positive one. If you are having 60,000 negative thoughts, your actions will lead you to a day of despair or 60,000 positive thoughts will have you bouncing around life, knocking down the challenges.

If you want to know how to keep a positive mental attitude going until you achieve what you want in life, NLP could be the key you’re looking for.

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